Jan. 3, 2024
Exploring the Transformational Power of Meditation with Deidre Finn
Ready to transform your life through meditation? Join us as we journey into mindfulness with our insightful guest, Deidre Finn. For over 30 years, Deidre has been infusing holistic practices into her physical therapy work, helping clients balance their nervous systems and pursue comprehensive wellness. With her guidance, we debunk meditation myths and give you the tools to build a meditative practice that fits your lifestyle and needs.
Have you ever wondered if meditation and yoga are beneficial for all ages? Prepare to satisfy your curiosity as we delve into the powerful impact of these practices on stress management and self-soothing, irrespective of age. Benefiting from our personal experiences, we'll guide you on embedding mindful pauses in your daily routine to reset and release stress. In our fascinating conversation on self-care, Deidre shares her wisdom on setting boundaries and achieving balance. Don't miss out as we reveal exciting resources to boost your self-care practices, all linked in the show notes. Step into the world of self-care prioritization and see the transformation in your life.
Connect with Wendy Manganaro:
Connect with Wendy Manganaro:
Chapters
00:00 - Meditation and Balancing the Nervous System
09:34 - Benefits of Meditation for All Ages
22:13 - Self Care Podcast Review and Links
Transcript
WEBVTT
00:00:00.321 --> 00:00:00.902
Hi everyone.
00:00:00.902 --> 00:00:06.033
My name is Wendy Manganero and I am the host of the Wellness and Wealth podcast.
00:00:06.033 --> 00:00:13.006
I'm so happy to have you find us and if you could take a moment and hit that subscribe button, I'd really appreciate it.
00:00:13.006 --> 00:00:21.868
This is the podcast where we believe when you show up better for yourself as a woman business owner, you show up better for your business.
00:00:21.868 --> 00:00:26.210
So sit back, relax and learn from the practical to the woo-woo.
00:00:26.210 --> 00:00:27.925
How did best take care of you?
00:00:27.925 --> 00:00:33.850
Have a great day, stay blessed and leave a review when you're done listening to the show.
00:00:33.850 --> 00:00:34.591
Thanks so much.
00:00:34.591 --> 00:00:35.841
Hi everyone.
00:00:35.860 --> 00:00:46.365
Today we have the topic meditation and balancing the nervous system, and I'm here with special guest Deidre Finn, and I'm going to read her bio and then we're going to get right to it.
00:00:46.365 --> 00:00:49.408
Deidre is the owner of Finn physical therapy.
00:00:49.408 --> 00:00:51.466
She has been practicing for over 30 years.
00:00:51.466 --> 00:00:56.229
Deidre's specialty is treating the whole person using a holistic approach.
00:00:56.229 --> 00:01:08.751
Finn addresses the root cause of your issues and works with gentle, osteopathically based, hands-on techniques such as craniosacral therapy and myofascial release.
00:01:08.751 --> 00:01:13.090
Deidre practices midtown Manhattan, in the Hudson Valley.
00:01:13.090 --> 00:01:22.174
Deidre is a native New Yorker and loves the city, but also loves to go upstate changes, all things having to do with movement, especially hiking and Tai Chi.
00:01:22.174 --> 00:01:24.382
Welcome to the show, deidre Hi.
00:01:24.382 --> 00:01:25.727
Thank you so much for having me.
00:01:25.727 --> 00:01:30.646
I'm so glad that we're going to have this conversation, and I don't know if I told you I'm a North Jersey girl.
00:01:30.646 --> 00:01:38.305
I live in South Jersey now, but I grew up practically in the city because my family had businesses there, so I love Manhattan too.
00:01:38.780 --> 00:01:41.590
Yeah, work hard play hard type of place, isn't it?
00:01:42.061 --> 00:01:44.608
It is, but the holidays there are astoundingly beautiful.
00:01:44.608 --> 00:01:55.173
So we're going to talk about meditation today, which I love that topic as somebody who's done meditation for a long time and not somebody who it came easily to.
00:01:55.173 --> 00:01:58.009
I will self admit I know they talk about the monkey mind.
00:01:58.009 --> 00:02:01.798
I certainly had a monkey mind and I was like you can quiet your head, are you sure?
00:02:01.798 --> 00:02:08.366
For a long time before I really started to get to hang of it, and it's one of my favorite things to do, so I'm really glad that we're talking about this.
00:02:08.366 --> 00:02:17.508
As far as self-care goes, I'd love to know because there's meditation, there's so many varying types of them and how people do them, and so what does meditating mean to you?
00:02:18.039 --> 00:02:20.669
Over the years I've tried lots of different kinds of meditation.
00:02:20.669 --> 00:02:25.310
I first started when I was in high school and a high school teacher introduced me to it.
00:02:25.310 --> 00:02:29.789
I have a certain style that I practice, but I don't think that's the only way to go.
00:02:29.789 --> 00:02:31.806
They say many roads lead to Rome.
00:02:31.806 --> 00:02:36.290
I think that the essence of meditation is paying attention to yourself.
00:02:36.290 --> 00:02:47.935
I think of it as taking your attention, turning it away from the outside world, all those things that are calling it external things, people, your job, social media, all of that.
00:02:47.935 --> 00:02:54.931
Putting it on yourself in the sense of Watching kind of attention, where you're paying attention to your body.
00:02:54.931 --> 00:02:56.466
How does your body feel?
00:02:56.466 --> 00:03:04.429
Your thoughts, what thoughts are going through your mind, but not necessarily reacting to any of that, just letting it be there in your attention.
00:03:04.429 --> 00:03:08.450
And so that's the basis of it as far as the way that I look at it.
00:03:08.860 --> 00:03:18.132
I love that idea of coming in and I'm a big believer that most of us have been a lot of time trying to make the outside feel good to the inside feel good, and it really is the reverse.
00:03:18.132 --> 00:03:27.009
That's what I learned through meditating is it's taking the time to be like, oh, if the inside feels good, then suddenly I see the outside world differently, not the opposite way.
00:03:27.009 --> 00:03:30.068
So for you, how long have you been meditating?
00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:33.610
It's been on and off pretty consistently though about 40 years.
00:03:33.610 --> 00:03:37.915
I started in high school and it was such a great thing for me.
00:03:37.915 --> 00:03:43.073
It was the thing that gave me the biggest sense of peace, and my high school years weren't easy.
00:03:43.073 --> 00:03:47.050
I think most people have a lot of angst in high school, especially today.
00:03:47.050 --> 00:04:01.850
Young kids or high school kids have anxiety and depression, and so I found that it gave me a sense of peace and I tried lots of different schools but, yeah, many years and I feel like it's indispensable part of my life.
00:04:02.379 --> 00:04:25.230
So I am curious about what you think, because people think when they hear meditation, sometimes people think that they have to fly to India, stay there for six weeks, and so I'd love to hear, like your idea of growing a meditation practice, because I'm sure that where you started, just like where I started, like I couldn't sit still, the idea of sitting still for five minutes when I started was that was not happening.
00:04:25.230 --> 00:04:28.108
There's no right or wrong, but I'd love to hear how your practice has gone.
00:04:28.480 --> 00:04:34.720
Yeah, I completely agree with you that it's better to start slow and it's fine to just start with a few minutes a day.
00:04:34.720 --> 00:04:38.300
I know someone who started with two minutes a day and that's fine.
00:04:38.300 --> 00:04:41.470
It's dipping your toe in the water, it's establishing a habit.
00:04:41.470 --> 00:04:44.689
And I also agree with what you said about the monkey mind.
00:04:44.689 --> 00:04:53.949
I think that it can be daunting when you first start because if you're not used to observing your thoughts, you may say, wow, I didn't realize I had a hundred million thoughts in there.
00:04:53.949 --> 00:04:55.605
They're never going to stop.
00:04:55.605 --> 00:05:00.692
Or I didn't realize my body felt so tight or so achy or whatever you're feeling.
00:05:00.692 --> 00:05:02.024
But that's normal.
00:05:02.024 --> 00:05:02.661
It's just.
00:05:02.661 --> 00:05:08.192
It's normal when you come in contact with what's going on inside, to feel that it's a little overwhelming.
00:05:08.192 --> 00:05:16.485
So it's good to learn how to be with those things in a non-reactive way and do it a couple of minutes at a time, whatever technique you're using.
00:05:17.141 --> 00:05:24.470
And I'll say one more thing about that is that I think a lot of people are mistaken when they think that in order to meditate, you can't have any thoughts.
00:05:24.470 --> 00:05:28.490
Your mind has to be completely still, which is even harder than going to India.
00:05:28.490 --> 00:05:30.814
Nobody can keep their mind completely still.
00:05:30.814 --> 00:05:33.329
It's the nature of the mind to have constant thoughts.
00:05:33.329 --> 00:05:47.646
So what happens, though, is, if you keep your body still and you keep your attention gently focused, your mind will quiet down somewhat, and then you can still have thoughts and be meditating at the same time, and you go in and out of your technique.
00:05:47.646 --> 00:05:48.910
That's normal, too.
00:05:48.910 --> 00:05:50.045
That's the way it works.
00:05:50.279 --> 00:05:55.072
I'm glad you're saying that, because I think there is that misjudgment of I'm not supposed to think anything.
00:05:55.072 --> 00:05:56.745
That's not how my brain works either.
00:05:56.745 --> 00:06:27.110
But to that point and I'd love to hear your thoughts on this is, and you started to talk about a little bit of not judging it, like because that's, I think, really the thing that happens is that we have these thoughts and constantly during the day we're judging ourself, our thoughts, everything we're doing around us, and I'm curious for you how you started to not judge your thoughts, like how that evolution came about, because that's really the onus of it, if you're going to have the thoughts but you don't have to judge every one of them critically.
00:06:27.600 --> 00:06:29.447
Yeah, it's really practicing.
00:06:29.661 --> 00:06:30.776
I'm still practicing it.
00:06:30.776 --> 00:06:38.286
I still sometimes catch myself going off on something in meditation that's negative and saying this is not really helpful at all.
00:06:38.286 --> 00:06:42.009
But it's taking a stance where you're observing your thoughts.
00:06:42.009 --> 00:06:47.672
So it's like you're getting a little distance on your thoughts and that means you're not as connected to them.
00:06:47.672 --> 00:06:58.951
So it gives you a little extra space in your life between you and what you're feeling and what you're thinking, and that little bit of space gives you the time to react differently to things in your life.
00:06:58.951 --> 00:07:09.673
So what you're doing during meditating is being more observant, stepping back from your experience, feeling that space and that that comes over days and months and years.
00:07:09.673 --> 00:07:20.235
If you do it, then it becomes a habit and then you'll have a more space during your day so that when someone really irritates you, that feeling of annoyance doesn't flare up as fast.
00:07:20.235 --> 00:07:30.956
You may have a little time before it flares up and in that time you can say, okay, is it really worth upsetting myself so much, or I should have expected this or some other reaction that's not as dramatic.
00:07:31.098 --> 00:07:34.249
Am I answering the question when I say that, yeah, I think that's a good answer.
00:07:34.249 --> 00:07:42.757
I think that's really helpful, especially if you're new into meditating or you think that you'll never have a quiet month or even somewhat quiet month.
00:07:42.757 --> 00:07:45.211
It can be really daunting, like you said earlier.
00:07:45.211 --> 00:07:49.031
So I think that it's really good to be able to say start to do that practice.
00:07:49.031 --> 00:07:57.497
I assimilate it to watching TV when you start to watch your thoughts and if you're the outside person looking in as opposed to maybe in the whole show running it.
00:07:57.497 --> 00:07:59.713
So I think that's a really great answer.
00:07:59.713 --> 00:08:03.711
And it does take time in practice, and that's the thing and finding what works for you.
00:08:03.711 --> 00:08:12.788
And the other thing is like when you're talking about being able to have that practice of like when somebody irritates you and you can turn in as opposed to reacting out.
00:08:13.189 --> 00:08:13.550
Yeah.
00:08:13.550 --> 00:08:16.420
So I think the other thing is that it's interesting.
00:08:16.420 --> 00:08:19.230
You can look at meditation from a spiritual perspective.
00:08:19.230 --> 00:08:21.877
You're looking for union with God.
00:08:21.877 --> 00:08:24.826
You can go that way, but you also don't have to.
00:08:24.826 --> 00:08:34.357
You can have a completely secular, science-based meditation practice, because whatever your intent is, it's going to take you a long time to get there.
00:08:34.779 --> 00:08:50.198
In the meantime, when you sit down to meditate, your brain is actually having certain reactions that calm your nervous system, and they've done a lot of studies on this and they find that different parts of your brain calm down and that you have different kind of brain waves when you meditate.
00:08:50.198 --> 00:08:58.653
And when that happens, you get different chemicals, biochemicals, circulating through your blood and that makes you feel different and then you can act different.
00:08:58.653 --> 00:09:02.746
So it's a kind of a physiological process that happens.
00:09:02.746 --> 00:09:06.461
It's that body-mind connection that's so super interesting.
00:09:06.461 --> 00:09:17.812
When you sit down, you're not moving your body, your eyes are probably closed and you're not putting something into your body and mind, which we are usually all day long having something coming in.
00:09:17.812 --> 00:09:22.094
So just by doing that, your nervous system starts to calm down.
00:09:22.114 --> 00:09:31.114
Meditation is not the only way you can calm your nervous system, but it's a really efficient way, and it's a self soothing way, as opposed to trying again for something outside trying to do it.
00:09:31.114 --> 00:09:34.288
So what's interesting is, as you're talking, I was thinking about this.
00:09:34.288 --> 00:09:43.475
I think I read an article for a headline that said they were switching, like regular detention for kids, to meditation and or yoga.
00:09:43.475 --> 00:09:52.956
I was like that is fantastic, because that's usually the issue is that it's so much outside of themselves, them acting out to be able to calm them and teach them.
00:09:52.956 --> 00:09:58.293
That tool really makes more sense as opposed to you've done something wrong here as a punishment.
00:09:58.293 --> 00:10:01.488
Here's something that you can do to be quieter inside yourself.
00:10:01.488 --> 00:10:02.591
I agree with you.
00:10:02.791 --> 00:10:03.953
So much with that.
00:10:03.953 --> 00:10:10.875
I think it would be so great if kids were taught in middle school to meditate and probably help society so much.
00:10:10.875 --> 00:10:14.534
But I actually had my first yoga class in junior high school.
00:10:14.534 --> 00:10:28.467
For some reason, I went to public high school in New York City and they offered yoga and I had this amazing experience after coming down from a shoulder stand pose, we were lying flat on the floor and I felt peace and calm for the first time in my life.
00:10:28.467 --> 00:10:37.537
It was so dramatic and that was really the start of me looking inward and exploring those things and I was given that opportunity by some fantastic yoga teachers.
00:10:37.537 --> 00:10:41.474
So, yeah, I think it would be life changing for kids.
00:10:41.474 --> 00:10:43.138
Like a tool it's a great tool.
00:10:43.566 --> 00:10:45.296
It is a great tool and I love that you had that.
00:10:45.296 --> 00:10:49.356
I'm like amazed and that's the New York school systems opposed to a lot years ago.
00:10:49.356 --> 00:10:50.722
That was not like the same.
00:10:50.722 --> 00:11:02.022
I was not watching them in North Jersey, but I love that idea because I think that when we teach our kids those tools, it can really change the outcome because we're teaching them how to, even small.
00:11:02.225 --> 00:11:14.827
That's an idea of self soothing that many people find hard to do as they get older if they haven't been given a great tool to be able to use to be able to calm themselves down, and I think that's really important.
00:11:14.827 --> 00:11:19.509
So I'm actually kudos to the New York school systems for doing that and being open minded.
00:11:19.509 --> 00:11:24.226
And the other thing is, obviously I'm a big advocate when you self care, you show up better for your business.
00:11:24.226 --> 00:11:40.825
But that's this idea of self-caring because you're taking the time for you, as opposed to ultimately over giving and never really taking the time for you and then getting frustrated because you don't have a tool to take the time for you and the meditation is like high quality time.
00:11:41.051 --> 00:11:46.389
It's using your attention and I sometimes use that analogy that your attention is like a flashlight.
00:11:46.389 --> 00:11:52.216
It's powerful and whatever you put your attention on, it's going to be Either you're going to be able to see it better.
00:11:52.216 --> 00:11:58.870
So then you turn your attention on your body and on your mind and you get a real good view what's happening in there.
00:11:58.870 --> 00:12:00.054
You get to know yourself.
00:12:00.054 --> 00:12:05.274
It's not always a pretty picture, but that's human nature and that's how we have to work.
00:12:05.274 --> 00:12:12.743
Everybody has a lot going on and it's not until you deal with it directly that you really can change it little by little.
00:12:12.743 --> 00:12:26.392
And I just find that meditation helps me during that afternoon time when you really want more coffee or you want something sweet, or Maybe you're going the other way and you're just going for a happy hour and you want a glass of wine, whatever it may be.
00:12:26.392 --> 00:12:29.399
You know that craving to feel better.
00:12:29.399 --> 00:12:31.703
If I meditate, it takes care of that.
00:12:31.703 --> 00:12:34.756
I get calmness and energy and it's healthy.
00:12:34.756 --> 00:12:36.442
You know it's like a good addiction.
00:12:36.831 --> 00:12:37.211
I love that.
00:12:37.211 --> 00:12:44.883
It's so funny because I am like the queen of the five-minute nap and so I find five-minute nap meditations and they are great and I'm fine.
00:12:44.883 --> 00:12:47.269
Afterwards I'm like everybody's like how do you take a?
00:12:47.269 --> 00:12:48.794
I'm like, no, you don't understand.
00:12:48.794 --> 00:12:53.269
If I'm like doing a five-minute nap meditation, I am so ready to go again.
00:12:53.269 --> 00:13:00.494
It just takes that little reset and I'm which is hysterical because I'm like because I don't nap long like I've never been to do that.
00:13:00.494 --> 00:13:05.816
But five minutes or 10 minutes will Completely change my day.
00:13:05.956 --> 00:13:06.519
If I do it.
00:13:06.519 --> 00:13:08.225
I just think it's brilliant.
00:13:08.225 --> 00:13:22.059
I'm a physical therapist, so I have a treatment table in my room and I'll lie down on that table, sometimes for like just a few minutes, like you're saying, and it is a reset and it's resetting your nervous system and that is powerful because you're going right to the source of everything.
00:13:22.149 --> 00:13:26.047
It's amazing how well that works, and I know that people are like I don't know how you do that.
00:13:26.047 --> 00:13:36.789
But I'm telling you and I didn't start it until I started to work for myself I didn't realize that I could do that because I was one of those power drivers that thought that I had to go all day and couldn't understand when they were tired and then get mad at myself.
00:13:36.789 --> 00:13:54.029
I was tired and I was like no, just take the five-minute meditation or the five-minute nap and you'll be able to do that, as opposed to trying to be superwoman, you don't have to be they think that they have a momentum going and if they stop they're going to lose the momentum or something's going to happen.
00:13:54.169 --> 00:13:59.162
That's negative, but what happens is the stress drains away and then your momentum is better.
00:13:59.162 --> 00:14:19.836
I read this once in a book on shigeng, which is like a martial, our energetic martial arts, and they were saying that when you have stress in your body, it's moving into your body or through your body and if you don't move your body and you don't address it in some way, then it congeals like cement and then it's in there, which I also feel is true.
00:14:19.836 --> 00:14:27.499
And if you can just change what you're doing, as in changing your position lying down, it could be as simple as taking a few deep breaths.
00:14:27.499 --> 00:14:31.160
But I find changing your position is really helpful, even if you're standing up.
00:14:31.160 --> 00:14:36.416
It just allows whatever it is that you are holding to move through you and that's like a, that's a pause.
00:14:36.416 --> 00:14:38.240
I call it a pause, a mindful pause.
00:14:38.549 --> 00:14:41.115
Oh, I love that and I like that analogy for stress.
00:14:41.115 --> 00:14:47.736
Wow, that really does explain it, because you can just feel it in your whole body Tenses and doesn't like want to go or move.
00:14:47.736 --> 00:14:48.518
It's crazy.
00:14:48.518 --> 00:14:50.142
So that really makes sense.
00:14:50.142 --> 00:14:50.702
I love that.
00:14:50.702 --> 00:14:52.782
I've never heard it quite said like that before.
00:14:52.782 --> 00:14:54.110
That's actually a good analogy.
00:14:54.571 --> 00:14:59.663
Yeah, I never forgot it when I read that and I actually just wrote of In my newsletter.
00:14:59.663 --> 00:15:12.198
I just wrote a newsletter on the mind, body connection and stress and it's just about that how you can use your body to help your mind, which is what you're doing when you lie down, but when you meditate it's a combination.
00:15:12.198 --> 00:15:17.441
When you meditate, it's like you're addressing your nervous system, which helps your body and your mind.
00:15:17.441 --> 00:15:19.826
So there's so many ways to do it.
00:15:19.826 --> 00:15:24.144
It's just good to do something, even if it's two minutes 30 seconds.
00:15:24.144 --> 00:15:26.352
It's a kind of a mental shift.
00:15:26.352 --> 00:15:27.576
Yeah absolutely.
00:15:27.638 --> 00:15:28.299
I really love that.
00:15:28.299 --> 00:15:35.765
So I'm sure you see a lot in your physical therapy because people usually come in probably later than they should come to see you.
00:15:35.765 --> 00:15:40.765
What are the beginning signs or the signs that somebody could benefit from meditation?
00:15:40.765 --> 00:15:51.312
As a female entrepreneur, I find that, like women, more than anyone else can go yeah, this is normal and try to push through it, and they ignore the warning signs.
00:15:51.779 --> 00:16:00.226
Yeah, they do, and I would say it's a feeling of constant fatigue, is a really great warning sign, especially if you start off.
00:16:00.226 --> 00:16:16.480
You're okay for a few hours during in the morning, maybe when you're at work, and then you start getting tired midday and then it's very anxiety producing and for some people it makes them push harder, drink more coffee and almost they're fighting against themselves.
00:16:16.480 --> 00:16:17.825
I used to be like that too.
00:16:17.825 --> 00:16:20.912
I had that in me, even though I was meditating at the time.
00:16:20.912 --> 00:16:22.023
It's so common.
00:16:22.023 --> 00:16:30.571
Another thing is that tired and why you're feeling where you can't go to sleep at night, you don't sleep enough, you wake up and you're tired lying in the bed in the morning.
00:16:30.571 --> 00:16:34.730
Those are signs of a dysregulated nervous system, your nervous system.
00:16:34.730 --> 00:16:40.053
You want it to be able to drop down, have a refreshing sleep, wake up, be refreshed.
00:16:40.053 --> 00:16:43.302
Those are signs that you need to pay attention to yourself.
00:16:43.302 --> 00:16:46.309
It's turn your attention on yourself and you'll be repaid.
00:16:46.791 --> 00:16:47.592
Many times over.
00:16:47.592 --> 00:16:51.371
I like that, that you said that, because tiredness is always.
00:16:51.371 --> 00:16:55.769
When I'm that tired, I'm like something is off, and I think that's the warning sign.
00:16:55.769 --> 00:17:11.335
We miss the most, though, is like we're like, oh, we didn't, and we make excuses like we didn't sleep well, or, strangely enough, I've had other people on the show, and anytime they were like when they were physical issues, anything they were like oh yeah, I was tired first, and that's the thing that they ignore.
00:17:11.515 --> 00:17:16.009
Because it's not so extreme, it's not pain, it's not overwhelming anxiety.
00:17:16.009 --> 00:17:17.894
You can still function through it.
00:17:17.894 --> 00:17:22.150
So a lot of times people don't change something until it gets bad enough.
00:17:22.150 --> 00:17:36.133
And that motivation to be like, oh, it's not that bad, I'm going to stop what I'm doing and sit down and meditate, it's a how do you make yourself, how do you understand that's so helpful Usually not until you've been through quite a bit.
00:17:36.133 --> 00:17:51.613
Personally, I do see people in the office and I I work with them and I do the craniosacral therapy, which also calms your nervous system, and then people get to feel the difference between how they were and when they're in full of anxiety and fatigue, when their nervous system calms down.
00:17:51.613 --> 00:17:59.065
And then I tell them you can also meditate and this helps your nervous system, and some people will say, yeah, I want that feeling.
00:17:59.065 --> 00:18:01.089
That's what I did in junior high.
00:18:01.089 --> 00:18:06.730
It's, I want that feeling and it's going towards the positive is usually go away from the negative.
00:18:06.730 --> 00:18:09.890
That shift towards going towards the positive is helpful.
00:18:10.231 --> 00:18:11.818
I can definitely see that, and that's the thing.
00:18:11.818 --> 00:18:13.343
How do I stop to go meditate?
00:18:13.343 --> 00:18:15.048
It's almost permission based.
00:18:15.048 --> 00:18:22.031
I think what women struggle with is that permission to be okay to stop the world and say I'm going to go do this for myself.
00:18:22.319 --> 00:18:27.309
It's prioritizing yourself, your emotions, your energy level.
00:18:27.309 --> 00:18:29.294
That is such a good point.
00:18:29.294 --> 00:18:40.325
I remember once being so impressed with a patient of mine who has a mother of four and she worked full time, yet she got up early enough in the morning to meditate before she went to work.
00:18:40.325 --> 00:18:43.397
And I just always remember her, because who can do that?
00:18:43.397 --> 00:18:45.263
But she found it so beneficial.
00:18:45.744 --> 00:18:52.842
Yeah, and then that's the thing finding that thing that works for you so that it really is beneficial, because I'm sure then she was calmer with her children she was.
00:18:52.842 --> 00:19:00.182
I know for me, when I do it and then I'm not like resentful at the other times that I spend with other buddy else, that's my warning sign.
00:19:00.182 --> 00:19:09.246
When I start resenting doing stuff, I'm like, yep, let's go, let's go meditate, let's take a break, because suddenly I liked you five minutes ago and I don't know.
00:19:09.246 --> 00:19:12.115
So maybe it's time for a break, maybe it's a perspective.
00:19:13.246 --> 00:19:14.724
It's a good morning sign, yeah.
00:19:15.428 --> 00:19:16.111
It's a good morning sign.
00:19:16.244 --> 00:19:21.191
Everybody has a warning sign, like maybe chewing off all your fingernails could be your warning sign or whatever it could be.
00:19:21.746 --> 00:19:23.593
So I have one last question for you.
00:19:23.593 --> 00:19:37.137
If you're a female entrepreneur and realize that you're like living in this flight or fight mode because that has a lot to do with the stress what's one simple meditation they could start with just to start to calm their nervous system?
00:19:37.464 --> 00:19:59.392
Sure, so I think you could simply have a meditation of sitting comfortably in a chair and closing your eyes and observing the sensations in your body, because when you do that, you're tuning in to yourself and your mind will be producing thoughts, your body will be producing sensations and you're just observing them.
00:19:59.392 --> 00:20:01.375
So it's not really a technique.
00:20:01.375 --> 00:20:08.125
It's more about changing your attention, putting it inward, and you could do that for two minutes or five minutes.
00:20:08.125 --> 00:20:11.816
That being said, I will say that there's a lot of great apps out there.
00:20:11.816 --> 00:20:28.996
Headspace is a great popular app, calm is a good app, and there are lots of meditations on there that people do, which are guided meditations, but I prefer the idea of meditating, that you observe yourself, more than listen to music or visualize something.
00:20:29.696 --> 00:20:35.334
They're all good, but I think that, in its essence, meditation is about being with yourself.
00:20:35.334 --> 00:20:43.387
So the meditation I do is that uses a mantra, which is a word that you say over and over again, and it's not that the word has meaning.
00:20:43.387 --> 00:20:47.702
It's that it's a way of being with your thoughts, but not being with them.
00:20:47.702 --> 00:20:51.431
It's another way of getting into the state of the observer.
00:20:51.431 --> 00:20:55.239
That's why I'm saying just sit down, just observe.
00:20:55.239 --> 00:20:56.368
It's not a technique.
00:20:56.368 --> 00:20:57.554
You don't have to study it.
00:20:57.554 --> 00:21:01.974
You can't do it wrong, even if you forget what you're doing and you start thinking again.
00:21:01.974 --> 00:21:06.453
Eventually you're going to remember and then you come back and that's how you meditate anyway.
00:21:06.775 --> 00:21:08.260
Thank you so much.
00:21:08.260 --> 00:21:15.913
This has been fabulous and I love talking about meditation because, like I said, it's been a journey and if you're new to meditation, it's a journey and it's not a destination.
00:21:15.913 --> 00:21:19.965
It's an ongoing journey, and so thank you for being on the show.
00:21:19.965 --> 00:21:28.336
I know you have an offer, so I would love for you to share with our audience what that is, and, of course, the link will be in the show notes, but you can share what that is.
00:21:28.336 --> 00:21:29.010
That'd be great.
00:21:29.412 --> 00:21:30.133
Okay, sure.
00:21:30.133 --> 00:21:31.817
So actually I have two offers.
00:21:31.817 --> 00:21:35.144
One is a free offer on my website homepage.
00:21:35.144 --> 00:21:51.959
If you scroll down it's a position for relieving back and neck pain and you can opt into that and you'll be opted into my newsletter and you'll get that 90 90 position, or I call it the best computer break, and it's a really great way to shift your position and get some relief.
00:21:51.959 --> 00:21:54.426
It's also a two minute thing that you can do.
00:21:54.426 --> 00:22:09.500
The other offer is called reset your nervous system and it's a course that you can get over seven days, seven emails, and it's easy techniques that you can do to release and relax your body working through the nervous system, and that's for $17.
00:22:09.500 --> 00:22:12.570
You can find that on my website as well Finn physical therapy.
00:22:13.012 --> 00:22:13.955
Awesome, awesome.
00:22:13.955 --> 00:22:18.609
And, like I said, I will have the links in the show notes, so go and look at those.
00:22:18.609 --> 00:22:21.517
Thank you so much, deidre, for coming on the show today.
00:22:21.517 --> 00:22:23.067
I enjoyed it.
00:00:00.321 --> 00:00:00.902
00:00:00.902 --> 00:00:06.033
00:00:06.033 --> 00:00:13.006
00:00:13.006 --> 00:00:21.868
00:00:21.868 --> 00:00:26.210
00:00:26.210 --> 00:00:27.925
00:00:27.925 --> 00:00:33.850
00:00:33.850 --> 00:00:34.591
00:00:34.591 --> 00:00:35.841
00:00:35.860 --> 00:00:46.365
00:00:46.365 --> 00:00:49.408
00:00:49.408 --> 00:00:51.466
00:00:51.466 --> 00:00:56.229
00:00:56.229 --> 00:01:08.751
00:01:08.751 --> 00:01:13.090
00:01:13.090 --> 00:01:22.174
00:01:22.174 --> 00:01:24.382
00:01:24.382 --> 00:01:25.727
00:01:25.727 --> 00:01:30.646
00:01:30.646 --> 00:01:38.305
00:01:38.780 --> 00:01:41.590
00:01:42.061 --> 00:01:44.608
00:01:44.608 --> 00:01:55.173
00:01:55.173 --> 00:01:58.009
00:01:58.009 --> 00:02:01.798
00:02:01.798 --> 00:02:08.366
00:02:08.366 --> 00:02:17.508
00:02:18.039 --> 00:02:20.669
00:02:20.669 --> 00:02:25.310
00:02:25.310 --> 00:02:29.789
00:02:29.789 --> 00:02:31.806
00:02:31.806 --> 00:02:36.290
00:02:36.290 --> 00:02:47.935
00:02:47.935 --> 00:02:54.931
00:02:54.931 --> 00:02:56.466
00:02:56.466 --> 00:03:04.429
00:03:04.429 --> 00:03:08.450
00:03:08.860 --> 00:03:18.132
00:03:18.132 --> 00:03:27.009
00:03:27.009 --> 00:03:30.068
00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:33.610
00:03:33.610 --> 00:03:37.915
00:03:37.915 --> 00:03:43.073
00:03:43.073 --> 00:03:47.050
00:03:47.050 --> 00:04:01.850
00:04:02.379 --> 00:04:25.230
00:04:25.230 --> 00:04:28.108
00:04:28.480 --> 00:04:34.720
00:04:34.720 --> 00:04:38.300
00:04:38.300 --> 00:04:41.470
00:04:41.470 --> 00:04:44.689
00:04:44.689 --> 00:04:53.949
00:04:53.949 --> 00:04:55.605
00:04:55.605 --> 00:05:00.692
00:05:00.692 --> 00:05:02.024
00:05:02.024 --> 00:05:02.661
00:05:02.661 --> 00:05:08.192
00:05:08.192 --> 00:05:16.485
00:05:17.141 --> 00:05:24.470
00:05:24.470 --> 00:05:28.490
00:05:28.490 --> 00:05:30.814
00:05:30.814 --> 00:05:33.329
00:05:33.329 --> 00:05:47.646
00:05:47.646 --> 00:05:48.910
00:05:48.910 --> 00:05:50.045
00:05:50.279 --> 00:05:55.072
00:05:55.072 --> 00:05:56.745
00:05:56.745 --> 00:06:27.110
00:06:27.600 --> 00:06:29.447
00:06:29.661 --> 00:06:30.776
00:06:30.776 --> 00:06:38.286
00:06:38.286 --> 00:06:42.009
00:06:42.009 --> 00:06:47.672
00:06:47.672 --> 00:06:58.951
00:06:58.951 --> 00:07:09.673
00:07:09.673 --> 00:07:20.235
00:07:20.235 --> 00:07:30.956
00:07:31.098 --> 00:07:34.249
00:07:34.249 --> 00:07:42.757
00:07:42.757 --> 00:07:45.211
00:07:45.211 --> 00:07:49.031
00:07:49.031 --> 00:07:57.497
00:07:57.497 --> 00:07:59.713
00:07:59.713 --> 00:08:03.711
00:08:03.711 --> 00:08:12.788
00:08:13.189 --> 00:08:13.550
00:08:13.550 --> 00:08:16.420
00:08:16.420 --> 00:08:19.230
00:08:19.230 --> 00:08:21.877
00:08:21.877 --> 00:08:24.826
00:08:24.826 --> 00:08:34.357
00:08:34.779 --> 00:08:50.198
00:08:50.198 --> 00:08:58.653
00:08:58.653 --> 00:09:02.746
00:09:02.746 --> 00:09:06.461
00:09:06.461 --> 00:09:17.812
00:09:17.812 --> 00:09:22.094
00:09:22.114 --> 00:09:31.114
00:09:31.114 --> 00:09:34.288
00:09:34.288 --> 00:09:43.475
00:09:43.475 --> 00:09:52.956
00:09:52.956 --> 00:09:58.293
00:09:58.293 --> 00:10:01.488
00:10:01.488 --> 00:10:02.591
00:10:02.791 --> 00:10:03.953
00:10:03.953 --> 00:10:10.875
00:10:10.875 --> 00:10:14.534
00:10:14.534 --> 00:10:28.467
00:10:28.467 --> 00:10:37.537
00:10:37.537 --> 00:10:41.474
00:10:41.474 --> 00:10:43.138
00:10:43.566 --> 00:10:45.296
00:10:45.296 --> 00:10:49.356
00:10:49.356 --> 00:10:50.722
00:10:50.722 --> 00:11:02.022
00:11:02.225 --> 00:11:14.827
00:11:14.827 --> 00:11:19.509
00:11:19.509 --> 00:11:24.226
00:11:24.226 --> 00:11:40.825
00:11:41.051 --> 00:11:46.389
00:11:46.389 --> 00:11:52.216
00:11:52.216 --> 00:11:58.870
00:11:58.870 --> 00:12:00.054
00:12:00.054 --> 00:12:05.274
00:12:05.274 --> 00:12:12.743
00:12:12.743 --> 00:12:26.392
00:12:26.392 --> 00:12:29.399
00:12:29.399 --> 00:12:31.703
00:12:31.703 --> 00:12:34.756
00:12:34.756 --> 00:12:36.442
00:12:36.831 --> 00:12:37.211
00:12:37.211 --> 00:12:44.883
00:12:44.883 --> 00:12:47.269
00:12:47.269 --> 00:12:48.794
00:12:48.794 --> 00:12:53.269
00:12:53.269 --> 00:13:00.494
00:13:00.494 --> 00:13:05.816
00:13:05.956 --> 00:13:06.519
00:13:06.519 --> 00:13:08.225
00:13:08.225 --> 00:13:22.059
00:13:22.149 --> 00:13:26.047
00:13:26.047 --> 00:13:36.789
00:13:36.789 --> 00:13:54.029
00:13:54.169 --> 00:13:59.162
00:13:59.162 --> 00:14:19.836
00:14:19.836 --> 00:14:27.499
00:14:27.499 --> 00:14:31.160
00:14:31.160 --> 00:14:36.416
00:14:36.416 --> 00:14:38.240
00:14:38.549 --> 00:14:41.115
00:14:41.115 --> 00:14:47.736
00:14:47.736 --> 00:14:48.518
00:14:48.518 --> 00:14:50.142
00:14:50.142 --> 00:14:50.702
00:14:50.702 --> 00:14:52.782
00:14:52.782 --> 00:14:54.110
00:14:54.571 --> 00:14:59.663
00:14:59.663 --> 00:15:12.198
00:15:12.198 --> 00:15:17.441
00:15:17.441 --> 00:15:19.826
00:15:19.826 --> 00:15:24.144
00:15:24.144 --> 00:15:26.352
00:15:26.352 --> 00:15:27.576
00:15:27.638 --> 00:15:28.299
00:15:28.299 --> 00:15:35.765
00:15:35.765 --> 00:15:40.765
00:15:40.765 --> 00:15:51.312
00:15:51.779 --> 00:16:00.226
00:16:00.226 --> 00:16:16.480
00:16:16.480 --> 00:16:17.825
00:16:17.825 --> 00:16:20.912
00:16:20.912 --> 00:16:22.023
00:16:22.023 --> 00:16:30.571
00:16:30.571 --> 00:16:34.730
00:16:34.730 --> 00:16:40.053
00:16:40.053 --> 00:16:43.302
00:16:43.302 --> 00:16:46.309
00:16:46.791 --> 00:16:47.592
00:16:47.592 --> 00:16:51.371
00:16:51.371 --> 00:16:55.769
00:16:55.769 --> 00:17:11.335
00:17:11.515 --> 00:17:16.009
00:17:16.009 --> 00:17:17.894
00:17:17.894 --> 00:17:22.150
00:17:22.150 --> 00:17:36.133
00:17:36.133 --> 00:17:51.613
00:17:51.613 --> 00:17:59.065
00:17:59.065 --> 00:18:01.089
00:18:01.089 --> 00:18:06.730
00:18:06.730 --> 00:18:09.890
00:18:10.231 --> 00:18:11.818
00:18:11.818 --> 00:18:13.343
00:18:13.343 --> 00:18:15.048
00:18:15.048 --> 00:18:22.031
00:18:22.319 --> 00:18:27.309
00:18:27.309 --> 00:18:29.294
00:18:29.294 --> 00:18:40.325
00:18:40.325 --> 00:18:43.397
00:18:43.397 --> 00:18:45.263
00:18:45.744 --> 00:18:52.842
00:18:52.842 --> 00:19:00.182
00:19:00.182 --> 00:19:09.246
00:19:09.246 --> 00:19:12.115
00:19:13.246 --> 00:19:14.724
00:19:15.428 --> 00:19:16.111
00:19:16.244 --> 00:19:21.191
00:19:21.746 --> 00:19:23.593
00:19:23.593 --> 00:19:37.137
00:19:37.464 --> 00:19:59.392
00:19:59.392 --> 00:20:01.375
00:20:01.375 --> 00:20:08.125
00:20:08.125 --> 00:20:11.816
00:20:11.816 --> 00:20:28.996
00:20:29.696 --> 00:20:35.334
00:20:35.334 --> 00:20:43.387
00:20:43.387 --> 00:20:47.702
00:20:47.702 --> 00:20:51.431
00:20:51.431 --> 00:20:55.239
00:20:55.239 --> 00:20:56.368
00:20:56.368 --> 00:20:57.554
00:20:57.554 --> 00:21:01.974
00:21:01.974 --> 00:21:06.453
00:21:06.775 --> 00:21:08.260
00:21:08.260 --> 00:21:15.913
00:21:15.913 --> 00:21:19.965
00:21:19.965 --> 00:21:28.336
00:21:28.336 --> 00:21:29.010
00:21:29.412 --> 00:21:30.133
00:21:30.133 --> 00:21:31.817
00:21:31.817 --> 00:21:35.144
00:21:35.144 --> 00:21:51.959
00:21:51.959 --> 00:21:54.426
00:21:54.426 --> 00:22:09.500
00:22:09.500 --> 00:22:12.570
00:22:13.012 --> 00:22:13.955
00:22:13.955 --> 00:22:18.609
00:22:18.609 --> 00:22:21.517
00:22:21.517 --> 00:22:23.067