Dec. 28, 2022
Sheryl Mays - Affirming Your Truth
Are you a female entrepreneur who knows what you don’t want but doesn’t know what you do want? Do you feel like your brain automatically goes to the negative?
This week on the Wellness and Wealth podcast, Sheryl Mays of Rise and Shine Consulting Firm addresses the process of speaking positivity and affirming your truth. She’ll also shares why an event plus your response equals the outcome in life.
In this episode, Sheryl Mays answers the following questions:
- What does speaking positivity into your life mean?
- How does one balance out their responses to life?
- What are the subtle warning signs of not affirming your truth?
- What is a practical application one can start to affirm their truth?
Guest Offer: Access to the powerful affirmation series and a self-discovery assessment
Link: www.risingandshine.com/affirm
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Transcript
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Hi everyone.
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Hi everyone, today we have another fantastic topic.
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It's affirming your truth.
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We will be joined by Sheryl Mays and, as always, I'll read Cheryl's bio and we'll get right into the show.
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Sheryl Mays is a Chief Experience Officer five time author, international speaker, OnAir personality and corporate trainer as the president of Verizon Shine Consulting and coaching firm.
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She provides consulting services and training for individuals, teams, and organizations on customer experience, customer service, and customer support.
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Cheryl is a contributing writer for Entrepreneur Magazine, the New Zealand Dream blog, Founder of Affirm Your Truth, the Movement.
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Cheryl has a passion for creating experiences that will allow businesses to increase their referrals, sales, and accelerate profits using a breaking the script concept, leading to an increase in customer retention.
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She is an award-winning sales leader in the corporate world with more than 20 years leadership experience, a native of Buffalo, New York with one daughter, a granddaughter, and two furry friends.
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She holds a BS in business administration, leans Fix Sigma, black Belt neuro programming practitioner, and a Jack Canfield certified trainer.
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She has had several positions with various.
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Organizations and presently volunteering as an alumni for Seminole State College, a counselor for S.C.O.R.E Orlando, and an ambassador for Seminole Chamber of Commerce.
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Her quote, I empower people to do the impossible and be unapologetically bold and confident when not working she enjoys spending time with her family, her church, traveling, running marathons, and taking on the trails with her two four legged partners.
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She has just released her Affirm Your Truth The Movement E-Journal series and shop.
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available riseandshine.com/affirm and you have a podcast, correct.
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I do have a podcast.
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Yes.
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The customer's tea?
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Yes.
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Oh, what a great name.
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Okay, so that is a lot.
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Cheryl.
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I love reading people's bios.
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I'll tell you why.
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Cuz I, I know for me, and I could be crazy that I feel like when somebody reads my bio, I'm like, oh, that is me and I stand in my superhero.
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You're like, ok, I guess I feel better.
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That's why I don't sleep at night or didn't sleep at night cause I was doing stuff
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Exactly.
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So welcome to the show.
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I'm so glad you're here with us today.
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Thank you.
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I'm excited to be here.
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Yes.
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And so I love this idea of affirming your truth and, we'll get into the questions.
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I know for myself as far as that concept sometimes I think it's a journey to understanding what your truth is.
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But I think once you know it, you don't wanna stand in anything else, but sometimes it takes a process to get there.
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So I think this is a great topic, especially for women business owners.
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So my first question to you is, as part of this affirming your truth, what does, speaking positivity into your life mean to you?
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It's interesting when you talk about affirming your truth and speaking positivity because you're right, it's a journey, it's a process, and we see things twice.
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We see things first in our minds, and then we actually see them.
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So we have to first think about how am I thinking about this thing that I wanna have happen in my life.
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What about this thing that just, it brings me fulfillment, it brings me joy, it brings me happiness.
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Even when I think about it, this smile comes across my face and I just feel like I'm in my moment.
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And so it is a process to get there, because we gotta get rid of the junk.
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We gotta get rid of the junk.
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We gotta get rid of we call them ants, those negative thoughts.
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Those automated negative thoughts, we gotta get rid of that stuff.
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We've gotta get rid of listening to the chatter that we allow people to bring into our space, and then we start to digest the chatter.
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And now we're starting to fill ourselves up with this doubt and this fear.
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And so understanding that all of that is going to happen.
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Nobody is avoid from bad things happening or bad moments in our lives.
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Nobody is avoid from that.
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And so when you understand that those things are going to happen, and I can't always blame the event.
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The event, it's the thing that happened to us.
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And sometimes that's where we allow ourselves to be defined by the thing that happened to us.
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But when you think about it, the reality is, and we share this as a formula, as a Jack Canfield trainer, this is something that we call being 100% responsible for your results.
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And it's a formula.
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It's really simple.
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It's E plus R equals O.
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And what it means is the event plus our response equals our outcome.
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So when this thing happens, when this event takes place, and it has literally stopped us in our tracks, it has stopped us from even thinking about the possibilities.
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How are we going to combat that?
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First we've gotta combat it in our minds, and that's when those words of positivity come in.
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When you begin to say things like, I am enough.
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I am worthy of my success.
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Things that are happening to me are happening because I deserve them.
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When we start to speak like that, then when those things occur, those negative voices that appear in our head, we can easily silence them.
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That is still a journey of a process, but once you start to see it work, And you start to go, wow I thought that was like this mountain.
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But then you come to the mindset of that was like a little pebble, based on everything else that people are going through.
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This is really a pebble.
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And guess what?
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I got over the pebble and then guess what?
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I had another pebble that was just a little bigger, but I got over that.
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And then so on and so on, and you realize I can get through this.
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And so now you continue to speak these words of positivity, and you speak them more frequently to yourself.
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So now you're ahead of it.
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So now you're not being reactive to the negative, but you're being proactive to the negative.
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And that's a reframing because that puts you in a different space.
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And so that's why speaking positivity is so important because it allows us to jump over those pebbles quicker, easier, and having learned something.
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Because with every jump there's a growth aspect.
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Absolutely.
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And as You were talking, I'm thinking I used to call myself a molehill into a mountain girl, because that's how I was raised that everything.
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We used a lot of hands in our family.
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Everything was traumatic.
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And I like to call myself an drama queen.
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I really understand that, that idea.
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And I love what you said, the E plus R was that it?
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E plus R equals O.
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Equals O.
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And I think that's so important for us to understand because I think as an entrepreneur sometimes we'll take or as a person, that sometimes we take one little tiny thing in the day and we go, I had a bad day and some result didn't turn out the way we thought it was, and we will sometimes allow it to define our whole day, which was just really a moment of time of that day.
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So I like that.
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So let me ask you your perspective of this is that, when you're a positive person, people who are not positive, people don't always like that.
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I'm just saying they're just like, oh my gosh, get away from me.
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Now, I think that life happens to all of us, but I think that there's this idea that if you're positive, nothing affects you at all.
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And people who are not so positive don't appreciate that.
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At least that's been my experience, so how do you balance yourself out?
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Because I don't think positive people don't feel anything.
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I don't think that's true.
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I just think that we different way of looking at things once you've learned the process, but I know that there's a lot of people out there who get turned off by that strangely.
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It's interesting that you say that because it things happen to everyone.
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I don't care how positive you are, we can even say, you can be Ghandi.
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Things are going to happen.
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It is going to rain on your parade, as they say, you're gonna forget.
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You're gonna forget your phone at home.
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Somebody might accidentally run into you and you've abided by all the traffic laws.
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Things are going to happen and just because you're a positive person doesn't mean that those things aren't going to happen.
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Now, where the difference sets in is that positive person understands that things just happen.
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Things just happen.
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Now, some things we do create, so let's be real.
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Some things we do create because of our lack of participation in our own stuff.
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We seem to think it's gonna go away.
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If I don't look at it, then it's gonna go away, but it doesn't.
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It just manifests.
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So there's that.
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But when you think about in general, things are just going to happen and we can sit there for hours and go, why did this happen to me?
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I must be cursed.
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Oh my gosh, I'm under this black cloud.
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The world is falling.
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Nobody is paying attention to me.
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Oh my gosh, I must have done something wrong at some point in my life of 50 plus years I must have done something so wrong that today is the day that I pay for it.
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But when we realize that, you know what, sometimes stuff just happens and John Lewis says this, and I haven't posted on my computer, and it says, we're asking ourselves the wrong questions.
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Instead of saying, why did this happen to me, let us change that and go, why did this happen for me?
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And maybe you forgetting your phone at home was a reason for you to go.
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You know what?
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Maybe today I cut off from social media.
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Maybe today I do some self care.
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Unfortunately, as it is, maybe you having that little bumper stopped you from going and having a major accident at the next light.
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Why not look at it from that aspect instead of, oh my gosh, all of this stuff is happening to me.
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Maybe it's happening for you.
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And so when you're optimistic and positive, you can see it in that regard.
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And it just allows you to keep moving.
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They used to have this thing where you would brush it off your shoulders and your viewers can't see what I'm doing.
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So I am literally brushing it off of my shoulders.
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And sometimes you have to do that and you keep moving forward and it picks back up.
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And that one contract that didn't go through did not crush the world.
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That one response email that you were coming back, that didn't come back so favorable was not the end of the world.
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But from that, you probably learned.
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I think one of the things that I know in my business is when I put together a proposal, and if you're in business, proposals take a lot of time.
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I don't care if you have a template, it's still conducive to that particular company.
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And so they take a lot of investment.
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And so you're getting the data and you're putting all of this into the proposal and then you're pretty it up, cuz you want it to be your brand and you submit it and you get it back and they go, thank you very much.
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But we've decided to go in another direction.
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That happens.
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It happens.
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But in the process, how I think about it is I just learned how to do a bomb proposal.
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Man, that thing was rocking.
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Even though they didn't accept it, I just know now I can do a proposal.
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And so that's the difference.
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And there is that idea of learning from that or making it into a tragedy.
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And it's so funny that you're talking about this because on occasion I'll turn on a YouTube and listen to a podcast.
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It seems the ones that I've been listening to lately has all been there is no failure, there's just learning from what you did.
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And I love that because it releases all the voices we hear as far as like how we speak to ourselves, because then there's no shame and guilt in it.
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It's just something that is, as opposed to something that is attached to us as good or bad.
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There's no good or bad.
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There's either you get it and that's fantastic or you learn from it.
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There's no real failure in that, which I think is amazing.
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So I'm curious though, for you, were you always a positive person or did you have one of those moments where you're like, well, this isn't gonna work for me, I gotta find something else?
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I'm always curious about somebody's background of how they get into where they're at now.
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I've been one of those people that have always saw the tomorrows.
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It's like, oh, tomorrow is, this is gonna be a better day tomorrow.
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I've always been one of those people and I still have things that happen, things that go wrong, in my family or in my business that is unexpected.
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Or things that I plan in the positive, and then they went in the total different direction.
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There are those moments when I just sit at my desk just like I'm sitting right here and I just throw my hand back and go, oh my gosh.
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For a moment, though.
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For a moment because we need that time.
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When we try to escape our feelings, then we harbor onto these things that we haven't been able to release.
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And as you're holding onto it and festering on it, then another thing happens and that compounds on it and another thing happens.
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And so you don't stop and feel the emotion, which means now you're devoid from having that feeling of what it feels like to have had a loss, to have had a miss.
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So then when something happens, it is a mole hill.
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Because you haven't allowed yourself to feel those moments of disappointment and those things are good for us.
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We always talk about our mental health and yet we wait until it's Mental Health Month We wait for somebody to tell us this month is mental health month.
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Focus on your self-care, and then everybody wants to start meditating and doing all of these mantras.
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This is something that we need to do for ourselves.
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If it hurts, cry, if you need to go out in the backyard and scream, then go out in the backyard and do that.
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Let yourself do that.
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Give yourself some grace to say, this is an emotion.
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This is not something that I need to escape.
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This is something that I need to release.
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And then you find that you've let it go.
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And so what do you have left?
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I got nothing but positivity left in my tank.
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So I love to ask this question because I always feel like people are on different parts of their journey.
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So for you, what are those signals for a female entrepreneur is not standing in their truth, they're not affirming it.
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What is it to you that is a signal going, oh my, this is not where I wanna be, because I think there's subtle things that happen to us that we don't realize that we do And somebody else who has a little more experience can go, that didn't sound like that's really where you were wanted to be.
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And I think you said it right there.
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It doesn't sound like that's where you want it to be when you're sharing with someone what it is that you do.
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If they don't see your passion in it, if you're not, talking about your business and you are like on Cloud nine, and they're like, okay, whoa, slow down then you are not as passionate about it as you were when you started.
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Why?
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Because it was hard.
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It's hard.
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They always say this, being an entrepreneur is not for the week at heart, So you saw someone on television that went from, you know how we see all of these in Florence and they say, I got 40,000 followers in 72 hours.
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And you're like, oh my gosh, I'm looking at, I got a thousand and it's taken me a year to get there.
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You look at things like that and you start to compare yourself.
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But you don't know their story.
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You don't know their story.
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And so, we have to allow ourselves to be able to, number one take the journey.
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You gotta take the journey.
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But to your question, the one would be the passion that's left you when you're talking about what it is that you do that started you on this journey.
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The second thing is to give up, is to give up so easily.
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We often hear, and you'll hear successful people say that sometimes you give up right before it's getting ready to happen.
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You give up way too easily, and I think if you're ready to throw into towel and say, you know what, I can't take another devastating mode, or I can't take another one.
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Now, if it's not crushing the business financially, because then you need to, rethink, what is your business model and how is that gonna work?
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But if it's just you in your head saying, I don't know if I can keep doing this.
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This is getting hard, then you're not looking at the resources that you have, because the minute you start asking for help and the minute you start bringing in help, then you find that you're in a better place because you don't have the drudgery of going, oh my gosh, I have to do now the things that I don't like to do, the things that are not in my lane of genius.
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I gotta do those things because it's a part of the business, but they don't bring you the passion.
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And so you don't get to focus on the things that start you on your love journey.
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So for me, my love journey is I love training.
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I love training individuals.
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I love coaching people.
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I love people thinking that they can't, and then they go, oh my gosh, you are not gonna believe what just happened to me.
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because of the way they reframe the method of thinking.
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I love to see that.
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And so whenever I talk to my clients, I am just like this.
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Whenever I'm training, I am just like this because this is what brings me passion and joy is to be able to share this with your listeners.
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And you know when you stop feeling that, when you're just showing up, but you're not showing out, there's a difference.
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And if you're just showing up and checking your name off the box and checking tasks off.
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then you need to recheck if you're really vested in this, because again, this is not for the week at heart.
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And Wendy, it brings me to this picture that I put in one of my books where it talks about, it's an iceberg and you see the ocean and it's a common picture, and at the top it says success.
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But what people don't see is what's below sea level.
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And that's where the doubt, the fear, the sleepless nights, the anxiety, all of those things that come into play.
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So, we can look at the Mark Cubans and the Grant Cardones, and we can look at all of these people and go, oh my gosh, they're flying around in these private jets.
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I guarantee you, and I can wholeheartedly say this, I guarantee you there were nights where they were curled up in the ball going, what the heck is going on?
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Right nights where they were in just filled with anxiety and fear and doubt.
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But again, that positivity that says, I'm the person for this.
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Okay.
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I had my moment Cause we need to have the moment.
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I had my moment and I cried and I sweated and I'm going to take a shower and I'm coming back.
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I'm pouring some coffee and it's game on.
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And so I had a client at one point in time and they franchised.
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